I don't know, that's tough. She's kinda young to understand but keep telling her and she'll get it eventually. When I was growing up my mom had a lot of issues with pain before she died. She hurt a lot and we all new. Sometimes we couldn't touch her at all. She had a really bad back and then when she had cancer that was painful for her. She always had a heating pad or Ben gay or some tell tale sign. I just always knew. Your daughter will eventually get it. Hang in there.

It's very hard Garen, to have to keep reminding children to be gentle with you. The only thing you can do,I think. Is keep on keeping on.
Have you tried to explain to her, I'm sure that you've had a little talk. Use her dollies to remind her to be gentle. Eg don't let her throw them . You could also put one of her dollies in a bandage and use that to help explain. Push comes to shove you could put a bandage on yourself as a reminder.
It's not only children though. I have to remind my husband to be more gentle because he forgets too.
The problem is we look so normal that it's easy for everyone to forget the pain we have. There are no visible clues.
Just had another thought. Let your daughter put moisturiser cream on for you and tell her how lovely and gentle she's being with you . It's just teaching I think and it's not a one off lesson .Hope that helps a bit.
Xx Ellen

I have a lot of spinal issues,, leading to disability and chronic pain, amongst a couple of other probs. I look after my 8 yr old grandson a few times a week for an hour or so, and his mum explained to him that nana has a very poorly back and he needs to be careful as I can be hurt very easily, he now says that nana is poorly cos she has a broken back, not entirely accurate, I know, but its his way of understanding it, he has grown up with me having these probs, and all I can sugguest is that you explain that mummy is very ouchy and to try and be careful, etc, it worked with my grandson, but then I don't have him all the time.

I agree with the previous poster but please.....................don't punish her!!!! It is not her fault, she's too young to understand. Maybe just try some distracting methods, but for God's sake stop punishing her.

It is very difficult but asi t is said ask her to apply moisturizer on your arm a and tell her it relieve you pain it will make her understand that you have pain but with the energy that she have you have to tell her all the times my grandchildren enjoy rubbing my ankles with ointment after spending the afternoon with them , they even insist because they understand that Granny is not well