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Has Anyone Hac A Nerve Block Done For Back Pain?
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My pain doc wants me to try a nerve block on my back. I'm willing to try anything at this point. If you've had it done, is it painful? Does it hurt? I have DDD, stenosis,and L-4 and L-5 are herniated. Any feedback is greatly appreciated!

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You need to find a specialist who knows how to do it and has a CT or at least an ultrasound available. It can help you to patch up the pain for 1 - 3 months depending on the stage of your herniated… read more

What Do You Do When Motivation Isn't Motivating And You Feel Like The Family Considers You A Burden?..
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unfortunately i understand what you mean i'm single never married so the family always assumed i should be the one to step up when needed through the years. Now I no longer can drive and i… read more

For Those That Have Used Marijuana, Would You Please Share Your Experience.
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Primary doctor suggested that I try marijuana instead of more opiates. I need to ask my pain doctor first a I signed a paper saying that I would only get pain meds from him. I have an appointment on January 5th and I want to go with some information about the success of using marijuana. I also need to know what to ask for. I'm really not interested in smoking it as I've never smoked before. Rx Marijuana is legal here in Arizona so that is not an issue.

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My daughter was in a bad car accident and also has fibromyalgia and she smokes a vape pen with thc. She says it makes it so she can get through a day ... Sort of. She is still unable to work

Due To My Chronic Pain And Illness I’ve Never Been Able To Clean Like I Used To. So I Hired A Girl To Come In And Clean Two Hours Once A
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Week. My common law spouse refuses to pay for it so therefore I’m unable to keep a clean house. I told him then I need you to do all the things I cannot. He won’t. I desperately need this service and I cannot afford it. Any advice?

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I applaud your courage. That wasn't easy to do.

How To Respond
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How do I respond, if at all, to this message? This comes from someone I love. I do not want to hurt them, but they just don't seem to understand.

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I would respond to this person that their response is an oversimplification, and may work for some forms of illnesses. But, when it comes to all of our illness (because I know there are those of us… read more

Do You Feel Alone And Like No One Understands What You Are Going Through??
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Come find a place of useful information and things to help you get through the hard days that are inevitable when you have a chronic illness! Just go to www.linktr.ee/SpoonieSupportNetwork to see all our links.

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I so agree with you..You know the old adage "walk a mile in another man's shoes" (or something like that). My husband has been so understanding and patient after almost 30 years, he has no problem… read more

How To Get Relief From Chronic Back Pain?
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I have had chronic pain for 10 years and I am currently at the end of my tether. Tried lots of different medications and other things to help but never free of pain which is beginning to impact on my mood.

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I know how you feel I go through it everyday

Are You A Spoonie???
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you know that phrase? “Out of spoons”
Or maybe you’ve heard people call themselves “spoonies”?

(It’s not the same as being “spoony,” an adjective which means “silly.”)

*Spoonie* is a noun, and folks with chronic illness use it.
Spoon Theory was created by a woman named Christine Miserandino, who used spoons to represent units of energy—the energy we expend throughout the day doing the simplest of things.

Getting out of bed.

Taking a shower.

Eating breakfast.

Getting dressed.

when every… read more

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My new mantra is This is ur life deal with it. Came to me when Fannie my fur baby demanded a walk and my pain level was 8
It kept me going or walking for longer than most long walks. Usually… read more

Does Anyone Else Have Family Members Who Don't Fully Understand Your Chronic Pain?
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Chelper yes hidden pain disability others say you look well . Your mum should have been able to see your not as well have a disability. Until others walk in our shoes they don’t know how we feel.

I'd Like To Know: How Do You Get Your Motivation Back After Hitting An All Time Low?
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How do you get your motivation back after a long fight with pain. The feeling of giving up when nothing seems to go right? When those you talk to say they don't wanna hear it anymore? When you have so much that needs done but your body won't cooperate and you feel overwhelmed.

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Hello, and sorry your suffering because I suffer so much it is for 2 or 3 people
The pain, I have to take a narcotic, and if they do not work. I go to 911 because I can not control the pain. I have… read more