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I need to change my mind set. I need help. Positive attitude, ideas so maybe my family will react to me differently. Thank you

October 10, 2017
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Members deeply related to the challenge of finding positive ways to communicate chronic pain when family grows weary of hearing about it, with... Read more

Members deeply related to the challenge of finding positive ways to communicate chronic pain when family grows weary of hearing about it, with many sharing that they have stopped talking about their pain altogether or only confide in understanding spouses or online communities like this one. Several members emphasized the importance of seeking counseling to better understand family perspectives, setting boundaries with unsupportive relatives, and allowing themselves to cry or express emotions without guilt, while practical suggestions included changing language from apologies to gratitude or simply removing oneself to another room when pain becomes overwhelming. A recurring theme was the profound isolation of living with invisible illness, the comfort of being understood by fellow pain warriors, and the hard-earned wisdom that sometimes the healthiest choice is to stop seeking validation from those who cannot or will not provide it.

A MyChronicPainTeam Member

I have to say I don't care about talking about pain . I have stopped telling my family as I cannot stand their contempt. I've tried a psychologist I've tried anti depressants nothing works but a good old fashioned cry. Sorry. But at least family don't avoid you then!

October 16, 2017
A MyChronicPainTeam Member

If they don't understand don't associate with them until they understand. Understanding is key and to appreciate your problem

October 12, 2017
A MyChronicPainTeam Member

My family is getting sick of me saying lt
I just go to another room now.i have seen A wonderful counsellor and that help me understand my family side.still have pain due to other illness i can not have any tables just strong pain killers that supposed to cover everything
It doesn't butit helps

October 15, 2017
A MyChronicPainTeam Member

You need positive feedback from them. Tell them it's not your fault You have chronic pain.I need positive support not negative support. Your already hurting. Don't add more negativity.

October 12, 2017
A MyChronicPainTeam Member

My family and friends are use to me laying on the ground or floor no matter where I am. Sometimes I need to just lay flat. They are use to me doing it and have stopped asking me if I need help up.

October 14, 2017

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