I just learned with a lot of people that it is better to give the option, makes it less stressful for me when they don't want to really hear and less of a hassle for them. I find some people are just so self absorbed, as well that they only ask certain things, or make certain interactions to receive some form of self gratification. My own family were these types of people. I had the mother who felt I couldn't care for myself because I was no longer under her oppressive thumb, a stepfather who if you told him how you were, somehow always had it worse, whether it was because of age, arthritis, or what have you and who was always convinced that you couldn't possibly have it as bad, a sister who was always incredibly hurtful, rude and ignorant and who always had to be the center of attention and numerous cousins, aunt's and uncle's, etc, who because of the lies they were told about me by those other people in my family and their own warped belief system, coupled with me always being used as a scapegoat basically branded me a monster and either stopped talking to me and listening to me for fear of being on my mother's bad side, or just simply grew tired of and grew to hate me. All of this I have found can equate to people being nice and asking, but already having an idea in their heads that they know everything and not really wanting to hear, plus many other countless scenarios. My point is that people are often just inconsiderate, whether it be by accident and out of ignorance of others feelings, or on purpose. Not saying that there aren't any genuinely interested and kind people out there, just saying I have encountered so many that sometimes it is just best to either ask why, or if they start in on you, just walk away, because their ignorance is not worth it to try and change.

Stick to these fellow sufferers and air your feelings here first. It will be a great help to you.

Yeah well f**k them! If u go to the shop in your pj's, that's a big win for you to even get there ! I used to be very vain, hair , clothes just right -it's a struggle to just get dressed now & I simply don't have the energy to care what ppl think. If I'm upright and walking , that's huge for me. Gold star! Judgemental ppl can go ... themselves ! 😊

I always tell them i am ok and that i am hanging in there. Not enough hrs in a day to explain what is really going on in my life

Agree .