Due to my chronic pain and illness I’ve never been able to clean like I used to. So I hired a girl to come in and clean two hours once a

Due to my chronic pain and illness I’ve never been able to clean like I used to. So I hired a girl to come in and clean two hours once a

Week. My common law spouse refuses to pay for it so therefore I’m unable to keep a clean house. I told him then I need you to do all the things I cannot. He won’t. I desperately need this service and I cannot afford it. Any advice?

A MyChronicPainTeam Member said:

@A MyChronicPainTeam Member, no he’s not Archie Bunker Bad but he doesn’t like spending money on a service I think. And he did grow up in a very old fashioned family where his Mother did do all the daily chores while the men did all the outdoor chores. He had a previous marriage and she died from bulimia and liver cancer. So I’m not sure who cleaned in that relationship. It’s confusing and I’m beginning to think he doesn’t love me like he says. He does do the shopping and the cooking but hardly ever cleans up after himself. I ask for help from my doctor and apparently these services exist but you have to pay for them. I guess I’ll just be cleaning and killing my self doing it! 😖

posted 4 months ago
A MyChronicPainTeam Member said:

We get one supplied by the government to come and do lundary, dishes and basic cleaning (clean the bathroom).

posted 4 months ago
A MyChronicPainTeam Member said:

I thought I added you already. Your situation sounds like he just doesn't get it , you have one good day and you then get " you did it last week " so why not now. Take care on your journey with chronic pain

posted about 2 months ago
A MyChronicPainTeam Member said:

Have you tried adult services to see if you qualify for one free? Advertise that you are on a fixed income and need compassionate, cleaning person 2times a month. Or barter wit a family member...make them dinner for the day they spen cleaning for you. Prayers for you!

Blessings

Cheryll

posted 4 months ago
A MyChronicPainTeam Member said:

I understand completely! I have someone come in twice a month. It’s definitely a necessity! Can you shop around to find a more reasonable rate. Or maybe hire a teenager from church or the neighborhood. Wishing you success and low pain!

posted 4 months ago
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